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The Root of Our Money Problems

We finally found the root of our money problems. Want to know what it is? According to my wife, it’s me.

When she said that in the car to me the other night, I laughed it off. But as I sat there and thought about it, she was absolutely right. I brought the most debt into the marriage and I probably would still be racking it up if I wasn’t with my wife. I was the most reckless with money before we got married.

But there are still things I do today that damage our finances. For one, I always seem to suggest eating out. Actually, my wife said “I was the problem” after I suggested grabbing something quick to eat. We have a ton of food at home and yet I always seem to want to eat out no matter where we are. What the heck is wrong with me? I really want to be debt free and yet I always want to spend.

I mentioned before that we want to still enjoy some “finer things” while getting out of debt. We would like to eat out once or twice a month and go to the movies occasionally. It just helps us from going insane.  However, I have taken the eating out to an extreme. If I had to guess, I would say we ate out about a dozen times in May. Most were the fast food variety but still expensive none the least. About 90% of those occurrences were my idea.

I guess you could say that I have been a big consumer for most of my life. I grew up on a family farm and started earning fairly good money (for a kid) by the age of 10. I did what most kids would do at that age with money. I spent it and I spent it ALL. However, I earned way more than most kids my age and I got to buy the more expensive items that many other kids only dreamed about or begged their parents for. Life was good.

What I guess I am trying to say is that old habits die hard. I would imagine that many of you are having this same problem. It’s hard to go from one extreme to the next and I’m finding that out that hard way. I once spent with wreckless abandon and now I am trying to pinch every penny. Life is hard.

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What would you say has been the toughest for you? Cutting spending? Setting up a budget? Opening up the lines of communication between you and your spouse?

Weekly Roundup – May 10th

Hope your weekend is going well! Ours started off with a bang yesterday when we booked our honeymoon! Heading off to Jamaica at the end of July (during hurricane season of course) for an all-inclusive extravaganza. I am working on a post for tomorrow detailing our experience with AAA travel. I’ll just say that it was a good one.

Now for a quick plug for the Carnival of Money Stories. Tomorrow is the last day to submit for the return of the carnival. It will be hosted by Gather Little by Little on Monday. You have until 5pm EST today to get your submissions in!

Great Reads From the Week

J Money from Budgets are Sexy wants to grant you one luxury wish. What would you pick? My answer is in the comments!

Bob at Christian Personal Finance explains the art of phishing scams with a great video that he found. That’s one of the things to avoid in my list of identity theft tips.

Free Money Finance tells you how one bad experience can ruin a company.

One Caveman’s Financial Adventure has a great list of 8 things new parents don’t need. I hope I don’t have to worry about these things for a few more years!

Make sure you check all of them out and I look forward to a great week of discussion! 🙂

Saturday Sneak-Peak: MoneyTLD.com

Welcome to this weeks edition of Saturday Sneak-Peak! Every week I explore a personal finance blog and give a brief review of the site. My major intent of the adventure is to expose everyone to new and/or obscure blogs. Up this week is MoneyTLD.com. Mike has contributed to the discussion on the site a few times and I greatly appreciate that.

Mike has some great tips on his site and I suggest you head over there and check them out. Here are some of my favorites:

Five Tips for a Successful Phone Interview

When Should a House Guest Start Paying Rent?

When is Mega Millions Worth Playing?

I asked Mike some questions to help you get to know him. Here they are!

YMR: What have you enjoyed most about blogging?

Mike: I most enjoy the ability to learn more. Although I consider myself knowledgeable in the area of personal finance, blogging forces me to think about that knowledge in a more structured manner. I have to organize my thoughts to make them coherent for other people, so I learn by teaching. If I don’t have the details right, then I do research to make sure I do have them right. I try hard not to fudge my knowledge. Plus, my readers shouldn’t hesitate to call me out on something if it looks like I did. Without that give and take, I’d just be in an ivory tower and would lack the capacity to improve.

YMR: What post did you enjoy writing the most?

Mike: While I didn’t necessarily write it, I really enjoyed hosting the Money Hacks Carnival on March 25. Compiling it was ridiculously time-consuming, but hosting that carnival really enabled me to see what else was out there. And even for the blogs already in my feed reader, I got to re-examine the posts that those bloggers thought were worth submitting. I find that much of my reading online is simply skimming, so this gave me a better chance to really delve into and think about the material.

YMR: How would you describe your writing style?

Mike: Conversational. In my head at least, I write the way I talk. As a result, I probably use too many cliches and could certainly write more tersely, but I hope that my writing thus feels familiar and readable.

YMR: What did you learn since January (about blogging) that you did not know before?

Mike: Hmm, that’s actually a pretty tough question. I’ve been blogging for several years at various sites, so the process isn’t new to me. However, if there’s one thing I’ve relearned, it’s that keeping up the pace is really difficult with blogging, especially when starting a new blog. At the beginning, you have no readers, no advertising income, and no real motivation to write aside from the idea of creating a kick-ass blog. Without a big marketing budget or celebrity status, gaining a readership is a very slow, organic process. While getting into blogging is super-easy, continuing to blog is very difficult. The many out-of-date blogs littering the internet attest to this fact.

I want to thank Mike for letting me interview him. It was a pleasure! Please head over to his site and poke around. I am positive that you will find something that you will enjoy!

Do you have a new blog (less than 6 months old)? Would you like to be featured in a Saturday Sneak-Peak? Contact me and I will set you up!

Have a great weekend!

Carnival of Twenty Something Finances – DC Edition

Welcome to this weeks edition of the Carnival of Twenty Something Finances! Last weekend, the future Mrs and I headed down to Washington, DC to check out the famous cherry blossoms. Although it was VERY crowded, I must admit that it was an amazing time to see them. DC is a great place to see on the cheap. Most museums in the city are free and they have a great transit system. Personally, we parked outside of the city at one of the free metro stations and rode the train all day. It cost us about $5 per person and we did not have to deal with the horrendous traffic and confusing streets.

Sprinkled throughout the carnival this week are some common places to see while visiting DC. Like I mentioned before, most of these sites are free to the public. You can get away with spending very, very little compared to other cities. I advise packing a lunch for you and your family as food can be rather pricey if you purchase it from vendors. Anyway, off to the carnival!

This is a picture that we took in the midst of the trees. The cherry blossoms were at their peak this year from around March 28th through April 12th.

Editor Picks

Debt Kid shows you that getting a mortgage after foreclosure is not so simple.

Debt Ninja at Punch Debt in the Face wants to know what’s your favorite dumb but fun expense? I would have to say that mine was my iPhone. I love it with a passion but I really do not need all of the features and the added expense.

Jerry at Deal Supermarket talks about getting unplugged with frugality. This was a very creative post!

DR at The Dough Roller gives you 10 tips to declutter your finances.

The Washington Monument is the most prominent structure in DC. It was built in 1884 in honor of George Washington. It’s free to get in but make sure you get their early!

The Rest of the Field

KC Lau shows you 5 ways to take charge of your finances.

Fabulously Broke in the City shows you why a small space does not mean you put your life on hold and whine.

Bank Savings Review let’s you know about four banks that gave their TARP funds bank.

Kathryn at Out of Debt Christian has the top ways to waste money on your home.

Shaun from Learn Financial Planning shows you why being frugal is just the first step.

SVB at The Digerati Life helps you choose the best online stock brokers for cheap stock trades.

Personal Finance Analyst wants to know if saving money damages your quality of life.

Patrick at Cash Money Life tells you when you should tell your boss that you are pregnant.

The Smithsonian Institution has a ton of great free museums to see in DC. You can go to the Air and Space Museum, Museum of Natural History, Freer Gallery of Art, etc.

Mr CC at Ask Mr Credit Card let’s you know how American Express submits your credit information to the credit bureaus.

Matt at Fine-Tuned Finances compares new credit card programs for saving for college.

Ginger at Ginger Won’t Snap has some credit card fraud problems.

Peak Personal Finance has 3 smart personal finance tasks that you are probably putting off.

Diego at Bankling shares with us his top 50 economics blogs.

Big Cajun Man at Canadian Personal Finance Blog has some advice for new grads.

Patrick at Money Saving Deals gives us the lowdown on how to get up to $150 from TradeKing.

RJ at Our Financial Planner shows you the miracle of compound interest.

The Lincoln Memorial is another great (free) site to see in the city.

MoneyNing shares with your his review of Everbank.

Jeff Rose at Good Financial Cents let’s you know what to do if there is a layoff pending.

Destroy Debt shows you how to get the last drop out of many popular products.

Pinyo at Moolanomy shows you how to transfer credit card balances.

Raj at DebtGoal is cutting the bill on digital services.

Wren at True Adventures in Money Hacking shows you how to get a free car. Really!

Dan at Everyday Finance gives you the best CD yields in April.

Jim at Bargaineering shows you how to pick the best credit card.

J Money at Budgets are Sexy gives some advice on Roth IRAs vs 401ks.

Visit Arlington National Cemetery and pay your respects to the thousands of fallen soldiers. You can also view the resting place of JFK and see the Eternal Flame.

Patrick at Military Finance Network shows how the stimulus plan assists military members affrected by the mortgage meltdown.

Credit Card Assist wants to know if you have ever looked at your credit card closely.

Apply 4 Credit wants to know if credit card protection plans are really worth the added cost.

Christian Personal Finance is giving away a free subscription of Kiplinger’s personal finance.

Investing School compares Etrade, TradeKing, and Zecco.

Mike at Money TLD lets you know that some expired foods can still be edible.

Eric at Twenties Money has five pieces of advice for twenty somethings.

BillEater shows you how to avoid debt reduction scams.

Kyle at Suburban Dollar gives you his review of CashCrate.

12 Questions With Deena Katz – Top Financial Planner

While attending Graduate school at Texas Tech, I had to opportunity to learn from one of the top financial planners in the country, Deena Katz. Deena has been in the business for many years and is recognized as one of the best CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNERâ„¢ Professionals. She was recently named one of Financial Planning Magazine’s “5 Most Influential People in the Planning Business”. She is also the author or co-author of nine books on financial planning.

I appreciate the time that Deena took out of her extremely busy schedule to answer our questions. Here is the list of questions that I asked her. These questions include some of my own as well as some from readers. Deena has some great insight in her answers and I hope you appreciate her input!


YMR: What drew you to financial planning and how does it enhance your life?

Deena: My mother was a minister and a social worker, but when my father died at 39, it became clear that she was unprepared for the financial burden.  She taught me early on to be able to take care of myself, because there is a high likelihood that I would be taking care of myself at some point in my life.  That led me to the planning profession.  My first company was working with women in transition.  It is extremely fulfilling to see people learning to take financial responsibility and accomplishing their goals.  I’m passionate about it.

YMR: Why do you think many individuals are scared about the thought of using a financial planner? What can the industry do to fix this problem?

Deena: There have been some very bad incidents in past years (Madoff and Standford most recently) which have shaken the trust and confidence that people had in advisors.   This is a two-sided problem.  Many people do not have the education to recognize if something is not right, some are looking for investment opportunities that are just too good to be true.  A little greed and a little vice make a big mess.  I always tell people “Never let anyone care more about your money than you do.”  On the other side of that, I believe people should work with CFPs, who are bound to standards of ethics that are quite rigorous.  I also believe that advisors should act as fiduciaries (in the best interest of the client.)  When looking for a planner, ask how they work, how they are paid and if they are a fiduciary.   Then you can begin to develop trust.

YMR: How have you been calming down your clients over the past year? Did you have them well prepared for an event like this?

Deena: No one is really prepared for an event like this.  It’s a 6th standard deviation event.  But, if we are able to manage client expectations from the first minute they work with us, we have a better chance to keep them from jumping ship when things are rocky.  As advisors, we can never promise market returns, we should be exploring the downside of investments with them.  We should be able to “stress test” their plan, to demonstrate how bad things really have to get, before their plan is unworkable.  We need to keep them informed of what is happening in the markets, in congress, and in the economy so we can give them “our take” on it and how it affects them personally.

YMR: Do you think this economic climate will finally get people to realize that debt is bad and retirement saving should be a priority?

Deena: No.  I don’t think many folks really understand.  I am hoping that congress will start to help us focus on financial literacy so that young children get this education to prepare them for life, rather than stumbling through it, making grave mistakes, then trying to “right” everything before they retire. I think people are paying more attention, but I am not sure they have been taught successfully yet.

YMR Reader: Do you think budgets are a sexy thing right now?

Deena: I have always felt that budgets are a four-letter word…but “sexy” is not the word I think of.  The nature of many human beings is not to feel the constraints of budget, because you fight against them, the same way you fight against your parents when you are 15.  I believe in  “trade-off” spending.   The first thing you need to know is how much does it cost you to live-basics, like rent, utilities, etc.  Then you look at the variables-eating out vs. eating in, for example.   Then you can say, “I’d like to buy a new car, so if I eat in and shave off some other expenses, I can us that money to buy the car.”   With budgets you are managing money, but with trade off spending you are managing goals.

YMR Reader: The buy and hold strategy has been around for decades. Do you feel that same strategy applies to the Gen X and Y generation?

Deena: I do not believe that modern portfolio theory is dead.  I further believe that you can’t  make market returns unless you are in the market.  Look what has happened in the last two weeks— If you missed one day, you missed a 6 ½ % run up.  Right now, I have no reason to change my investment philosophy.

YMR: Speaking of generations, do you think the baby boomer generation is prepared for retirement? Why or why not?

Deena: Baby Boomers are not prepared, but they don’t really want to retire either. Further, if all of us did retire, we would not have a big enough work force to carry on.  Boomers may not stay with their current jobs, but may work at something they love, for less money.  They will postpone retirement because they have to, even though they will not admit that’s the reason.

YMR Reader: Asset allocation has been preached extensively after the dot.com bubble, yet even diversified balanced portfolios took a significant hit with the recent economic meltdown. How do you address that to those concerned?

Deena: See #6 above.

YMR Reader: Speaking of asset allocation, what do you recommend people do with their retirement accounts? I would like an answer for new hires, mid-range employees and close to retirement employees.

Deena: First, the younger you are, the more time you have to let your portfolio grow.  I suggest a low-cost S&P 500 index.  Leave it alone.  As you continue to add money, eventually you should buy small cap and international-all index.  Mid range employees, you may want to add some fixed income, probably around 20% max.  As you get closer to retirement, you may have 60% equities, depending upon when you will need to start withdrawing from them. You want low-cost selections, because the fund expenses come right off the return.

YMR Reader: The economy has my wife feeling a bit insecure even though we’ve got a sizable emergency fund built up, and we have no debt. The question is, once we’ve completed our emergency fund, what path should we take? Should we start investing in the stock market like it’s on clearance, save in a high yield savings account, or should we be paying extra on our mortgage? Or a combination of those things?

Deena: Some leverage is good, so I would not start paying down the mortgage unless your interest rate is so high that you cannot beat it by investing your money elsewhere.  If your mortgage interest is low, invest in the market, because it is on sale.  I would suggest that you in invest index mutual funds because they are cheaper (less expenses).  Try Vanguard’s S&P Index fund for starters.

YMR Reader: My wife and I are in the market to buy a new home. We’ve saved up a sizable amount and we are selling our current co-op to use mostly as a down payment on a new place. Our credit is also impeccable. Still…how can we tell if we can truly afford it? Is there a metric/guide we can go by?

Deena: Bankrate.com has a calculator that can help you get your arms around that.  I don’t like “rules of thumb” because they are made for average situations and I believe you deserve solutions that are unique to you.

YMR: Now a fun question! How are you liking semi-retirement in Texas?

I am not semi-retired!  I am working 24/7, but loving it.  I love Lubbock, it’s just the right size community for me.  I love the school, my fellow faculty and most of the students.  I can’t imagine doing anything else. In fact, we’ve opened up a branch office of Evensky & Katz here in Lubbock and we are in for the long haul.

Many thanks to Deena for allowing me to interview her!